Steps to Planning Someone’s Wellness

What is Wellness?



Several days ago I posted about planning a healthy life.  I was discussing each person’s responsibility to care for themselves and take necessary steps to work for their own wellness in body and mind. In real life, sometimes we are responsible for someone else whether it is our children, spouse, or parent.   Trying to understand the meaning of and getting a grip on wellness can be a challenge. We have to try out different things and overcome a range of roadblocks to achieve the goal. It’s a constant struggle but now add the responsibility to help someone else achieve wellness that is so crucial to a happy life. 

There are ways to keep someone else’s wellness efforts on the straight and narrow.



# 1 – Help them realize what they need


In large part, wellness is all about realizing what we need on a personal level and arming ourselves with the tools to turn that desire into a reality. Mindful Life has an informative post, Monthly Wellness Planner for a Happier 2021.   Goals are only dreams without a plan. At the beginning of each year, you can break down  yearly goals into small steps and create a monthly planner.  If you are assisting someone else, help them complete this task.  Admittedly, this isn’t an option in cases of severe distress, youth, or dementia. 

If the person is limited in ability to form goals, you’ll need to use what you know of that person to create a wellness plan as best you can. But, if the individual in question is still able to assist, then a few probing questions could help them towards solutions of their own. 






# 2 – Assist them in finding help if necessary


Wellness is a wonderful way towards overall lifestyle improvements, but it’s not possible until you address any limiting factors that may be getting in the way. Specifically, health issues due to illness or accident can stand in the way of any real wellness benefits.  These medical problems need addressing as soon as possible and should be a major part of the original wellness plan.


If the person needs a specifc treatment, encouraging your loved ones to complete physical therapy, seek psychiatric help or follow medical treatment plans is of the utmost importance. It could be something they may not have the strength to do themselves. Even in instances where certain struggles are preventing them from seeking this care, offering assistance in making appointments, getting transportation, or helping them to apply for needed financial assitance like Medicaid hardship waivers may be necessary.   Hopefully, they will begin to be more involved in the planning with your continued help them along that road. 


# 3 – Embark on joint wellness activities



Two People Walking in the Forest


You can’t force someone to take responsibility for their own wellness, but you can still provide a much-needed boost by embarking on joint activities that provide any missing positive steps to wellbeing. Even better, this approach has the added benefit of addressing your own wellness needs which, when you’re caring for someone else, can fall out of the picture all too easily. 


The fact is that doing things together holds you both accountable, makes wellness more fun, and brings otherwise impossible goals within easy reach, all with the benefit of joint support. Some fantastic activities that could help you and your loved one on this path include – 


  • Daily walks
  • Joining a yoga class
  • Joint meditation
  • Embarking on mutual healthy eating plans
  • Joining exercise classes
  • And more


Even if you find that your wellness journeys take different paths down the line, these efforts are a fantastic way to start, and should especially encourage your struggling loved ones to focus their priorities at last, and hopefully enjoy the benefits that doing so can bring. 


# 4 – Let them know you’re there


Sometimes, we assume that we need to make sweeping gestures and take immediate action when our loved ones neglect their self-care and wellness focuses and, as we’ve seen here, that’s certainly true some of the time.


But, in many cases, taking responsibility for someone else’s well being simply means offering the support that they need to find their way back to positive habits. The ability to talk to a caring friend or family member (you!) can be especially invaluable in these instances, helping the individual in question to work through any issues, recognize their problems, and even address these so that wellness can be a priority once more. 


Back view unrecognizable girlfriends wearing casual clothes hugging each other while standing on grassy vast field in summer countryside



In many instances, you may even find that simply letting your loved know about your concern helps them to recognize a problem that, perhaps, they weren’t even aware of. And, once we realize the things that are standing in our way, we can take action and, ultimately, set off on a much better-paved path to wellness as a result. 




A final word


Wellness can be tricky at the best of times, and noticing that someone you love isn’t taking care of themselves the way they should can be incredibly concerning. You’ll inevitably feel some responsibility for getting that individual’s self-care efforts back on track, but this needn’t be the difficult and mammoth task that you imagine. Rather, taking responsibility for someone else’s wellness is, in large part, a simple case of –


  • Eliminating any mitigating factors (health complaints, mental difficulty, etc.)
  • Helping them to see where they’ve lost focus
  • Providing accountability to see them back on track


Once you see the smile and focus back on that friend or family member’s face, you’ll certainly see that all the effort was worth it, for your wellness and theirs.












This is a collaborative post, but all opinions are my own.  


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I was raised in Tennessee but have lived in Florida for many years. Love my small home in the Tampa Bay area and its developing garden. My decorating style is eclectic - some vintage, some cottage, all with a modern flair. Pursuing a healthier lifestyle. Spent many years in social services but am happily retired.

2 thoughts to “Steps to Planning Someone’s Wellness”

  1. Sometimes its about finding the right help, too. I tried for years to eat healthier and then DH and I ended up finding a nutritionist that helped us not change everything we ate but helped us look at finding substitutes for things we liked that weren’t radical changes but changes that fit with what we were open to doing. These changes have stuck with us and she’s still helping us adjust and make changes as we face health challenges.

    I was resistant to see a nutritionist because I’d been in the past and what I got was a list of food that I knew I wouldn’t eat, I didn’t like, and had no ability to stick with for any period of time. Sometimes making healthy life changes is about finding compatible options.

    1. you are so lucky to find someone to help you customize your diet to meet your needs health-wise and preference-wise. I’ve had to do that on my own. I was always given a list which doesn’always work.

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